We are Like Sea Glass

I never heard of sea glass until I took a trip to Key West for a retreat. One of the speakers passed around a basket full of sea glass and asked the 30+ people to take one. When it was my turn, I chose the darkest, fullest piece I could find.


Because that was the bit of silicon that had been through the toughest forces…had tumbled the most on the waves…and had it survived. Instead of cracking, shattering or being crushed by its journey, that glass had absorbed the larger energy and become stronger. Because of its journey, it was a beautiful reminder of transformation.

Are you struggling with powerful forces in your life right now? Do you feel as if you should give up or give in, even when you know it is not the best path for your growth and expansion? Are you tired of the conflict and turmoil?


Take heart – that fact that you are reading this post and nodding your head is enough evidence that you have already survived.

You are worthy…or you would not be here, right here, right now. You are strong…or you would have already given up. You are valued…isn’t it time to value yourself?

Trust in love greater than you can fathom or imagine.

Know that your journey is part of your contract.

What appear to be obstacles to your small mind are really stepping-stones on your path.

Breathe in the goodness of life and allow it to flow through you.

 Reframe. Release. Renew. Rinse and Repeat.

It’s another step in the Heart Dance. (can you hear the music playing?)

Are you a Caterpillar or a Butterfly?

I have a new logo – did you notice it? I hesitated about using a butterfly, because it is one of the most common symbols of transformation and change. Think about it – a lowly caterpillar, inching its way up a tree trunk without much hope for a different life, is compelled to wrap itself inside a cocoon and sleep, only to emerge as a gorgeous creature…WHO CAN FLY!

Unbelievable that both the caterpillar and the butterfly are really the same living being. They have to be – no one else got inside that cocoon, did they?CaterpillarB

Uhmmmm…I am starting to see the similarities between the caterpillar’s change and how we expand ourselves. Let’s look at the stages of growth and identify any parallels.

The caterpillar has no idea that it can turn into a butterfly. It lives its life doing what caterpillars do (eating leaves). Is it happy or sad? Hard to say but we do know that it is a caterpillar in physical form. But the potential is there for something greater…

Are we so different? We think we live in a world that directs, confines and limits us if we buy into its message. Happiness lies outside of us, in that new car or shiny object that promises fulfillment and satisfaction. Just like the caterpillar, we are one leaf away from happiness. We also have the potential to become something greater than ourselves.

Until one day, an inner nudge (instinct) causes the caterpillar to shed its skin and create a cocoon.  It probably doesn’t know why it is covering itself, but suddenly, the caterpillar’s only goal in life is to be encased inside a cocoon of its own making.

What about you? Have you felt an inner nudge to start questioning the ways of the world? Do you feel dissatisfied in how your life has turned out? Are you seeking answers from within instead of from the outside? Then you are going into the cocoon stage.

Waiting for transformation. Inside the cocoon, an amazing change is taking place. Without going into the scientific details, the cells of the caterpillar rearrange themselves into a mature adult butterfly. I think scientists call this process “metamorphosis.”

When you begin to question and search for answers, there is a period of time needed to digest and integrate the new information. The inside work of you begins to evolve and will soon make its presence known on the outside. Think of it as your own metamorphosis or transformation.

Breaking open the cocoon, an adult butterfly emerges. Not a baby or infant, but a fully developed butterfly who can fly! Caterpillars are tied to the earth. Butterflies spread pollen by flying from one flower to another.

After you shift your perspective and thoughts, a different you emerges to the outside world. Your friends and family may notice the change and ask about it.

But will they notice your wings? Probably not, until you begin to use them.

As you begin your own journey of self-awareness and love, you will discover your ability to fly. No longer confined by worldly limits, you heart begins dancing to a new life, created inside.

Ahhhh…now the butterfly in my logo makes perfect sense!

Welcome to another step in the Heart Dance.





A Quick Announcement and a Favor

I will get back to my regular blog posts tomorrow,

but first I wanted to ask you for a favor.

I am almost ready to release the newly revised and updated 2nd Edition of Dance with the Divine. This novel is about a family torn apart by a secret that disrupts their very foundational beliefs. While the 1st Edition did well, I felt that it needed deeper content and life-changing lessons that transform the characters and hopefully the readers :-). Before I release this latest edition, I need your help.

The description found on the back of the book is critical to attracting readers. Creating a compelling summary is tricky. That is where you come in.

I have created Version A and Version B, which are shown below. Without knowing anything else about the book, can you please let me know which one you liked better? There is a one question poll form at the bottom of this post. And this is very important — if you did not like either of them, let me know that too!

Thank you for taking your time and sharing your opinion. I would love to hear any additional comments from you in the space below.

Be well,


Version A

A dark secret from the past erupts into the placid life of the Hartt family. Pushed underneath the surface for years, the effect of one decision threatens the very fabric of their lives. Brian and Christine must decide how they are going to relate to each other and even whether separation or divorce is an option. Savanna, their 14-year-old daughter, must face her fears or rebel against the entire situation.

Their actions and reactions take a predictable course, until a mysterious young woman offers a different path. Savanna opens her heart to these new spiritual laws and begins to transform from an angry, hurt teenager to a wise and patient young woman. Can her parents follow her lead? Or is Savanna destined to walk this way alone?

Full of inspiration, transformation and confirmation, Dance with the Divine will move you to tears, make you laugh and finally, force you to examine the stories you hold dear that prevent you from moving forward.  Change your story. Change your life.

Version B

The Hartts are a typical American family. Brian and Christine both work and they try to be available for their 14-year-old daughter, Savanna. Their lives are mostly drama-free, until a dark secret from their past threatens to destroy the entire family. The lingering repercussions from a decision made before Savanna was born have made themselves known, and now these consequences can no longer be ignored. Divorce seems imminent unless they discover a miracle.

Savanna refuses to stand by and see her family be destroyed. She is determined to find a better way…and it actually discovers her. A mysterious young woman and her dog show Savanna how to look past the physical and see the spiritual side of her situation. A leap of faith and courage to stay the course provide Savanna into a new perspective about her life, her value and her purpose. But can the adults in her life make the same faith leap and give up their stories about the past that are tearing them apart?

Brimming with inspiration, transformation and empowering messages, Dance with the Divine is life changing. It introduces a 4 step process called “Story Alchemy” that can be used to transform any story that threatens your peace and happiness. As you cheer on the choices made by each of the Hartts, you will also reflect on your own stories that keep you playing small.  Change your story. Change your life.

The Mixing Bowl of Life

You are constantly creating and transforming yourself.


Everytime you have a thought about something, or decide to take action or not, you have added another layer to your life.  Because it is the thoughts you think, the beliefs you hold and the actions you take that create your life.

You could even call it the Mixing Bowl of Life.

Many people are under the false impression that outside events are the forces that shape their lives.  Whether it is the economy (or lack thereof), the depth (or not) of their personal relationships or any of the other zillion possibilities, they look to the material world for their answers.

Psssstttt…the answer is not out there.  It’s all in here.

Take a moment and point to yourself.  Look at where you pointed.  I can almost guarantee that you pointed to the middle of your chest, near your heart.

That is where You are – in your heart.  Not your head, not your brain, not the 60,000 thoughts you think a day.  So where do you believe the answers are to your burning questions?  Out there or in your heart?

The mixing bowl of life’s ingredients is on the inside.

Your outward life reflects the inside of your mixing bowl.  If it is filled with anger, resentment, frustration and pain, that is recipe for an unhappy life.  But if your mixing bowl is filled with love, sprinkled with joy, salted with adventure and spiced with abundance, your life becomes nothing short of miraculous.

Wnat to know that the cool thing is?  You – yes, only you – decide what gets added or deleted from your mixing bowl.  Your parents cannot contribute (unless you let them), your job doesn’t make a difference (unless you allow it) and your spouse, friends or family cannot deposit anything.

Only you have control over what goes into your mixing bowl.

That is the awesome power you have over your life.  It is also an awesome responsibility and one that only you can master…for yourself.

Have you taken inventory lately?  What recipe are you cooking that is becoming your life?  If you don’t like the end result, go back to the beginning and change the ingredients.  It really is that simple.

But how do you do that?  Were do you start?

No one can know the answer for you.  Only you know your issues, your personal background and the dynamics of your relationships – with others and with yourself.  You are a unique and special person who has never existed before in just this way, and who will never exist again is this form.  So truly, you are the designer, cook, mixer and baker of your life.

My mission is to help illuminate your way with insights I have gained on my journey.  Some of them may resonate with you; others may leave you unaffected.  No worries, because I am not in charge of your growth and transformation.


Once you truly grasp that concept and integrate it into your world, watch out. Your life is about to rise, expand and become the most delicious thing you have ever experienced!