What Holds Us Back from Being Awesome?

I came across this TEDx talk by Michael Neill. It got me thinking about why I hold myself back from my own greatness. The answer that kept coming back was…FEAR.

But what am I afraid of?

That is the million dollar question. Once I figure that one out, nothing can stop me.

Simple Steps to Love on Mother’s Day, Even If You are Dreading it!


Today is Mother’s Day, a holiday to celebrate all of the wonderful qualities found in mothers. Unselfish love. Infinite support. Utter and complete belief in a child’s potential.

But what if you do not have such a great relationship with your mom? Are you dreading any celebrations today? Maybe you are the mom being celebrated but your relationship with your children is strained. There is hope…if you are willing to try something different.

Before going out to be with family, take a few moments for yourself. Take several deep breaths to calm your mind. Repeat the following:

I am worthy of love. I am love. I am joy.

Imagine your day from the point of love. See everyone smiling, happy and relaxed. Enjoy each other and appreciate their uniqueness. Set aside judgement for today and love them as fully as you possibly can. See the light in the other person, not the darkness.

Your day will follow a much different path than if you began it with fear.  It works every time…because your thoughts create your reality. Starting your day with loving thoughts produces a much different experience than if you began today with fear, dread or resentment.

Your energy changed from fear to love and your reality has to follow.

It’s called “Thought Become Things” and this concept, as well as many others, are taught in a 6 six-week e-course. Learn more at KathrynEriksen.com.

Spread the light and more will be returned to you.

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You are the Author of Your Story

Have you ever thought about your “stories” – those snippets of thoughts that you tell yourself to appease, sooth or distract? What do you do when you discover that your stories are just…wrong?

See if you can relate to what happened to me the other day.

My power to create stories slammed in my face on my way to work one morning. As I pulled into the crowded parking lot, another car suddenly appeared immediately behind me. I could not see her front bumper because she was following so close. There was no room for her to pass me, so she just continued to be locked to my rear bumper (we could have danced the tango!) She was obviously in a hurry and didn’t like my slower speed.  I instantly felt annoyance rise up in my body but intentionally decided to just make it to my parking space.

As I was walking to the building, the other driver walked a parallel path. It was drizzling and she had an umbrella tilted (her face was covered). I did not know who it was and I almost said something to her about driving too close, but decided that it wasn’t worth it. We both continued into the building through different doors.

The story in my head was that this person was rude and driving recklessly in a crowded parking lot (she really was on my bumper). While I clung to the feeling of superiority for controlling my words, I still felt annoyed for being treated that way.  I walked into the building toward the office,  turned the corner and discovered the identity of the mysterious driver.

It was the receptionist from our firm!

My first thought was, “Thank goodness I didn’t say anything!” After we said our hellos, I went to my office and realized that there was a deeper lesson than the happy avoidance of a social faux pas.

I Was the Creator of My Story

My “story” about the other driver made me the victim! SHE was doing something to ME. And I felt threatened, then annoyed, then wanted to project those feelings on her by words or actions. Because my “story” cast me as the victim, I felt very righteous in wanting to say something to the perpetrator.

Can you see how this process flows from the source? My words or actions were the direct result of my thoughts and the story I created about the situation. I already had a prepackaged story that I immediately turned to, because I had encountered that same situation before.

I was the creator of the victim story. That means I can create a totally different story to use when I encounter that same situation again! I can control my reaction to an irritating situation by deliberately moving from a victim mindset to one of acceptance and non-judgment.

The power to change rests in me, no one else.

What if I told myself a different story about the parking lot incident, based on a clearer understanding of how my thoughts (and stories) filter my reality?  Here is another way I could have reacted:

When I first notice her tail gating me, I still feel a flash of irritation. But I do not want to travel down that road, because I know that it leads to upset and anger. I am in a great mood and choose not to allow an external event to disrupt it. I mindfully step into the space between feeling irritated and doing something I might regret later. A deep, cleansing breath brings me back to the present moment and away from the irritation (and the story behind it). I deliberately and intentionally say to myself, “It’s OK for her to be in a hurry.” Then, I send her a silent message of peace and love. I don’t think about her again. No irritation enters my body, I do not tense up and I arrive at my destination happy and noticing other things. The incident does not continue to play out in my mind and I am free to move on through my day. Joyfully.

Isn’t that a better way to live?

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You can Discover Your Own Infinite Possibilities

Anyone not heard of Mike Dooley’s New York Times bestseller, Infinite Possibilities BookInfinite Possibilities? It came out in 2009, just after he appeared on The Secret.

Mike has done something extraordinary. He knew that the information about “thoughts become things” creates powerful changes in people’s lives and he was very grateful about the success of Infinite Possibilities. But he wanted to reach even more people, so he had a brilliant idea.

Mike created the “Train the Trainer” program, to allow other people to become certified in the IP material, so they could go out and teach it to their groups. In effect, he set up a network group of individuals who all have the same purpose – to reach as many people as possible with this transformative information.

I became a Certified Trainer in June of 2013. I love to see the light bulb moment in my students’ eyes when they realize that they can transform their life – just by changing their thinking. But I became frustrated at the slow pace of teaching small groups.

So I had a brilliant idea – why not create a Infinite Possibilities virtual course that people could take from anywhere? It would not cost much but it would still deliver all of the great content that I would give in person. And the best part is that it would be available 24/7, at home or where ever the student may be located.

You, my blogging friends, are the first to learn about Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Joyful Living. A six-week virtual course that will take you by the hand and show you life’s magnificence (and your role in its creation). A mind-blowing course that will show you how important your thoughts and beliefs are in creating your reality. And lots of fun videos, insightful exercises and techniques to transform your life from “ho-hum” to “who-hoo.”

I wrote a very special e-book just for this class that I know you will enjoy. Called The Monk and the Tea Cup, it will resonate with you if you feel the least bit dissatisfied with your life.

Please visit Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Joyful Living to start your journey toward your new, fabulous life!


Ask “Dear Abby” and You Will Get an Answer

This is the third post in a series that describes my personal experiences with the experiments in the new book, E-Squared, by Pam Grout.  I just completed Experiment #5 called the “Dear Abby Principle,” and I am blown away by my experience.

In case you did not read the last two blog posts, the premise of the book is to prove to you, the reader, that your thoughts really do matter.  That is, your thoughts change matter. Matter is what makes your reality. The nine experiments in the book take you by the hand and gently prove that your thoughts create your reality.

Experiment #5 proved rather difficult for me. I started the 48 hour experiment just as a close family member was not doing well. His death left me reeling and I just could not continue with the experiment. It has taken me this long to even think about it again and my life will always be marked with the day he passed on.

I wondered about the timing of experimenting with #5 (inner guidance is always available) and coping with death. But then it hit me – that is the perfect time to know – really know – that I can talk to my own personal guidance counselor and really hear the answer.  Loss and vulnerability create a space to hear messages that normally would not get past my conscious mind’s filtering system.

In the book, Pam makes the distinction between your conscious mind (the thinking mind) and your inner guidance. The conscious mind is good for two things – to identify problems and set goals.  When it is also used to solve problems, that is where the trouble starts, because that is not what the conscious mind is designed to do. As Pam expresses it so eloquently, “[t]his spin doctor in the brain is not your best resource. It judges, distorts reality, and causes unnecessary emotional distress.”

Instead of relying on the conscious mind to solve problems (which it never was designed for), Pam suggests turning to your own inner guidance system. The experiment is to expect a specific, concrete answer to a specific, concrete question in the next 48 hours. Choose an issue that is troubling you and has a “yes or no” answer. You set the intention and the time frame – the Universe will do the rest.

My intention was simple and straightforward.

I asked whether I should continue writing and speaking, blogging and promoting my books. By the world’s standard, I have not been too successful. I am still waiting for Oprah to call me and my Amazon ranking is in the 7 digits.  But I love what I do, and want to help others with what I have learned.

What was my answer? At the beginning of August, I ordered a microphone to use in my e-course called “Infinite Possibilities.” The box was delivered and never opened. It sat on the floor of the study gathering dust while MicrophoneI was caught in the maelstrom of family affairs. I never opened it until after I set  my intention. And this is what I discovered written on the outside of the box: “4 Settings. Infinite Possibilities.”

I started laughing and couldn’t stop. How much clearer a message could I receive?

But the Universe was not done with me yet. The next day (still within the 48 hour time period), I received a call from a business coach that I had not talked to in at least three years. He called me out of the blue to tell me that he had a great new coaching program for internet entrepreneurs and was I interested?

It struck me that I was stuck – and needed a business coach. I just did not realize it until that moment. All of the successful people whom I admired – Pam Grout included – credit their coach with taking them to the next level. Instinctively, I knew that I needed someone to guide me, focus my efforts and develop a plan of action, instead of haphazardly trying to build my tribe.

My intention – should I continue with speaking, writing and creating products to inspire people – was answered. As clear as a bell and as sweet as melon. Gently, lovingly and instantly.

Why not try these experiments for yourself? The proof is in the pudding, or in my case, on the box!