I went to visit a friend whose sister had just had a baby less than one year before. My friend and I had not seen each other and we were busy catching up, when her sister walked in the room with the baby. She was sound asleep and her small round face was framed by her peaceful features, completely relaxed.
The three of us talked quietly as the baby slept. When the baby began to move and stretch as she was coming awake, her mother did something I have never seen before.
She picked up her daughter and cradled her with one arm, so the baby was facing her. As the baby opened her eyes, her mother raised her up so they were almost at eye-level. And they both smiled in recognition of each other.
It was a tender moment of connection. It was mutual acknowledgment and love. It was a perfect example of being seen.
Humans have a deep seated need to be seen.
Not for their aspirations, accomplishments or achievements. But to be seen for their naked, unadorned self. Without judgment, criticism or ridicule.
When you were an infant, new to this human experience, you never doubted that you were seen. In fact, you were more comfortable in the other world where you came from, than you were in this new world of physical sensations, restricted energy and embodiment.
Just like my friend’s baby, there was no doubt that she was seen and loved. You were that way when you took your first breath, when you felt that blanket wrapped around you, holding you close.
What stops you from being seen? Your stories.
Stories are the interpretation you place on the stream of life that flows through your awareness. When your story is negative, judgmental or makes you “less than,” you have stopped the flow and anchored the energy inside of you. As the moments continue to flow through your awareness, your story adds a filter that allows only that information that supports the story.
At the most fundamental level, you see your life through the lens of your stories, instead of what is really there. You make decisions or withhold your authentic self because of your distorted view. As you interact with other people, their stories come into play and you begin reacting to their story, filtered through your story.
No wonder you might feel misunderstood, alone and unworthy!
Dogs are unconditional love walking around on four legs.
Why are they so good at it? Because they can’t create stories around the moments that pass in front of them. They see clearly and remain connected to their essence.
It really isn’t that complicated or difficult. Just be unconditional love in every moment. To learn more from a very special dog named Avatar, please click on Drop the Leash.