Dear Has-To-Be-Right Human:
Have you ever thought about the cost you incur when you insist that your position or story is the right one, without any regard to the pain it may cause someone else?
No, I didn’t think so. Otherwise, why would you insist that you are right, even when it’s hurting the other person?
Because you have made being right more important than seeing with love.
The need to be right is what prevents you from forgiving in the moment. Dogs do this instinctively; humans…not so much.
Over my many lifetimes, I have collected a list of questions that will help you make a different choice. When you are in an argument or situation, and you know that you are pushing the “have-to-be-right” envelope, ask yourself these questions:
- What am I feeling right now? It is love or fear?
- If I am feeling fear (or any of its cousins, anger, sarcasm, arrogance, etc.), why am I afraid?
- What if I chose to love in this situation instead?
Your natural state is love. You knew this as a baby. Babies don’t hold grudges or fail to fall back in love once their immediate needs are met. Babies don’t have a need to be right (dogs don’t either). Then why do most adult humans forget how to fall back in love?
Because of their need to be right. It’s ego-based and separates you from everyone. Think about it – then use the questions to drop back in love.
Your dog can show you how.
In these days leading up to your big Heart day, I asked some friends of mine to help me remind you that you came from love, you are love, and you are seen.
You can be the person your dog thinks you are.
Hang in there,
P.S. Why not check out my book, Drop the Leash: Let Go of the Past and Love in the Present? It makes a great Valentine’s Day gift for the dog lovers in your life.