I have been thinking a lot about mirrors and reflections lately. Maybe because the wrinkles seem to deepen on a moment’s notice, no matter how expensive of skin care I buy. Or that little bit of extra weight around my waist is more stubborn than a coffee/chocolate stain. (Hmmm…there may be a connection between the stain and the waist line!)
Back to the mirrors – Wikipedia defines a mirror as “an object that reflects light in a way that preserves much of its original quality subsequent to its contact with the mirror.” To put it another way, the purpose of the mirror is to reflect back what is before it.
When we were in Paris earlier this year, we went to the Palace of Versailles. The opulence of the entire palace was amazing, but it was the Hall of Mirrors where we had fun. Taking a picture of yourself in a century old mirror is the modern way to capture yourself in history!
But what if the mirror is distorted and you don’t realize it? What if you assume that you are looking at a true reflection of yourself, when anyone else can see that you are standing in front of a fun house mirror? Based on your assumption, you would believe that the elongated image in front of you is really how you look.
We can’t see ourselves without a mirror.
It is vital to know if your reflection is clear or distorted.
A mirror can be an inanimate object or another person. Either way, distortions can be present without your awareness. For example, if you surround yourself with negative friends, who complain about everything, watch how long it takes for you to adopt that same perspective. The negativity and complaints become the mirror in which you see yourself.
The child who has convinced himself that he has no friends will not act worthy of friendship. The adult who caves into herself at the slightest whiff of criticism does not act confident. The coach who thinks winning is the only thing will not tolerate ineptitude. The list goes on and on and is as varied as the 7 billion people on the planet.
Your beliefs are a mirror that
reflect you back to yourself.
But they are so much harder to see!
When you set up one mirror to reflect another mirror, you create what could be considered an infinite view. But consider the impact of each person reflecting back the person standing before them, and you begin to see why communication and trust can get so screwed up. Especially when the “mirror” being used by people is really the beliefs that they have created about themselves and their place in the world!
The astonishing news is that, unlike inanimate objects, we can refine or reframe our belief creations. The first place to start is to discover the beliefs that hold us back and change them.
Maybe, just maybe that new wrinkle in the mirror carries a different message?