Forgiveness is the door to happiness.
That statement is contrary to popular belief and cultural norms. We are so focused on who is right that we have forgotten our greater purpose…to forgive so we can be happy.
The opposite of forgiveness is judgement. And in every moment we take a breath, we have a choice between the two. They cannot co-exist in the same space and time. They are mutually exclusive…and available to all of us in every single heart beat.
As Rickey Minor noted in his book, There is No Traffic on the Extra Mile,
“What does not have truth or integrity to it has nothing to feed on but itself.”
Judgement feeds on itself. It fosters and encourages anger, resentment, pain and intolerance. It separates us by pointing out differences. Judgement is a path we choose and one that eventually leads downward to destruction. It feeds on itself.
Forgiveness creates more. It does not tear down but builds up. Forgiveness based on acceptance and love encourages more acceptance and love. It is the other path we choose and one that will lead upward to happiness and a much closer relationship with God.
Ask yourself today, when faced with a situation that upsets you, whether you would rather be right, or happy. If being right is important to you, then judge away. But if you consider the other times in the past when you have made the same choice, did it ever bring happiness? If the answer is no, then you might want to consider the other choice – forgiveness.
Chose to be a creator, not a destroyer. Chose love and forgiveness instead of judgement and fear.
And when you make the choice to forgive, start with the one person who needs its the most.